Soaring unemployment numbers, rising prices on necessities and stricter rules regarding qualifying for a home mortgage have become the norm. As a side-effect, many adult children are finding difficulty making ends meet. The solution for many is to ask mom or dad if they can move back home.

Young adults and even established families are finding that the economic crunch is taking its toll on their ability to make it on their own. The scarcity of jobs and high foreclosure rates is leading a number of adult-age children to solicit their parents for a place to stay. While the situation is often billed to be temporary, the economic downturn might linger longer than expected.

Recent census figures indicate that more than 80 million parents who generally would be empty nesters actually have at least one grown child living at home. Whether this is a result of the economic downturn, adult children caring for aging parents or another financial situation, the rates are growing. What's happening is that individuals who grew accustomed to their independent lifestyles are forced once again to make compromises living under the same roof. The results can be tenuous. However, there are steps to take to help the situation work.

* There has to be a legitimate need for children to move back home. It can't simply be a whim or lack of ambition.

* Parents should see a real need to help their children.

* The situation should be presented as a temporary one, with a firm deadline. Children are expected to find new living arrangements as soon as possible.

* The children contribute to the household in a tangible method. This can involve financial contributions, housework, caring for parents or a combination of factors.

* It is important for the child to have a good relationship with Mom. Studies indicate that a happier household is indicative of mother and child co-habitating well. The relationship with the father isn't as important, behavior experts say.

* The parents' relationship should be strong and established. Newlyweds welcoming an adult child (who will be a stepchild to one parent) could face tension.

* Set ground rules for the house. Remember, the child is living under his or her parents' roof. Parents' rules apply.

* Give each other the space needed. Three or more adults living in a space can eat away at nerves, especially if everyone has their idea of how things should be done. Respect others' privacy and spend time alone when possible.

* Parents should not feel obligated to care for their adult children's kids if they are moving in as well. Don't take over responsibility or diminish your child's authority over his or her own progeny.

* Do not sacrifice your own financial future to help your children. Decide how much you want and can afford to help.